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Fathers often grieve in silence, but community transforms isolation into strength. Finding Your Tribe explores how shared experience, practical support, and collective remembrance can help fathers navigate grief together.

Discover how clear, honest language helps families navigate grief together. Part 2 of The Silent Hum's Grief Literacy series explores why naming loss with children builds understanding, safety, and connection. Essential reading for New Zealand families facing loss and seeking meaningful ways to communicate with their children.

What does it mean to be 'literate' in grief? For families in NZ and beyond, grief literacy is the key to navigating loss with compassion. In part one of our series, we explore how understanding the language of grief can help us heal together and build resilient families.

Grief is a solitary journey, but it's one that couples must learn to navigate together. This article offers guidance for partners in NZ, exploring how to support each other through different grieving styles and maintain connection when facing the unimaginable.

The sterile language of hospitals can feel isolating. This guide helps New Zealand parents decode medical jargon, ask the right questions, and find their voice, ensuring they are an active part of their child's care team.

When the word cancer enters your family’s life, it feels like the ground beneath you shifts. The journey through childhood cancer is not a straight path. It twists and turns, sometimes smooth, often rocky.

How do you grieve a child you've lost while fighting for a child in crisis? A father's raw reflection on the impossible triage of grief - learning to hold loss and hope simultaneously while supporting whānau through unimaginable challenges.

Understand how well-intentioned words can unintentionally cause pain during crisis. Learn what to say and what to avoid when supporting whānau through childhood illness in New Zealand.

The messages glow on the screen: “Let me know if you need anything.” It is a generous, heartfelt, and profoundly useless offer. In the landscape of crisis, the person you are offering to help is the least capable person in the world of telling you how. Grief and fear are thieves, and their greatest heist is executive function. Asking them to project-manage their own rescue is an impossible task. So, what is the language of real help?

When the world shifts beneath your feet, and the path ahead is shadowed by uncertainty, finding a steady light can feel impossible. I...

Late-night tensions are common for Kiwi couples in crisis. We often offer the support we want, not what our partner needs. This post shares a simple question that acts as a translator, preventing arguments and ensuring you provide the right kind of support for your whānau.

Feeling lost in the storm of a family crisis? This is your anchor. A practical guide with tools and scripts to help you advocate for your child and find steady ground.

The messages arrive like small, glowing birds on the screen of a phone you don’t have the energy to lift. They all say a version of the same sentence... "Let me know if you need anything." It is a well-intentioned, generous, and utterly useless offer. In the landscape of crisis—whether it’s the sterile, beeping world of a hospital ward or the heavy silence of a grieving home—a person’s capacity is the first casualty.

n this raw and powerful blog post, a father confronts his son's childhood cancer diagnosis—a battle that echoes his own past trauma. Grappling with profound grief after a stillbirth, "The Silent Hum of What If" is an unflinching guide to fierce advocacy, resilience, and the work of staying present when the ground shifts beneath your feet.

Grief literacy is not theory. It’s how families, children, and communities learn to carry loss together with clarity, honesty, and presence.

I live between two rooms. One is fluorescent and busy. Nurses murmur. Pumps count time with a red pulse. My son sleeps, a line taped to...