Fathers Day Support

When your dad is managing a serious illness or chronic health condition, Father's Day can look and feel different. The focus often shifts from traditional celebrations to finding quiet, meaningful ways to connect. It’s the simple gestures of love and presence that can have the most profound impact, creating moments of comfort that honour your relationship.

Here are a few ideas for creating those moments:
 

• Share a Favourite Story. Take some time to sit with your dad and share a favourite memory you have of him. It could be a funny moment from your childhood, a piece of advice he gave that stuck with you, or a time you felt proud of him. You could also look through old photo albums together, letting the pictures spark shared stories and laughter.

• Create a Moment of Connection. Think about the simple things your dad enjoys. Does he love a particular movie or sports team? A specific genre of music? A good cup of coffee? You could set up a comfortable space to watch a favourite film, listen to a classic album, or simply share a quiet moment together. These small, achievable acts of companionship can create a powerful sense of normalcy and peace.

• Offer a Helping Hand. A meaningful gift can be the simple act of doing. Is there a small task he usually enjoys but might not have the energy for right now? This could be tending to some garden pots, organising a bookshelf, fixing something small, or simply reading the newspaper aloud to him. Offering your time and practical help is a beautiful way to show you care.

• Capture the Now. If you both feel up to it, take a photo together. It doesn’t have to be a formal portrait. A simple selfie, a picture of your hands together, or a photo of you both looking out a window can capture the strength and love in your relationship exactly as it is in this moment.

• Find a Shared Quiet Place. If getting out is an option, consider a short trip to a place that feels peaceful for both of you. This might be a bench in a sunny park, a quiet spot by the water, or a drive to a scenic lookout. A change of scenery, even for a little while, can be restorative and offer a calm space to just be together.

 
If You Are Grieving Your Dad This Father's Day
 
For those who are facing Father’s Day after the loss of a dad, it is so important to remember that your feelings are your own. Grief does not follow a script; it can be a tangle of sadness, anger, gratitude, and love. Allow yourself the space to feel whatever comes up, without pressure or judgment.

Here are a few suggestions that may offer some comfort:
 

• Write to Him. Even though he is gone, writing a letter to your dad can be a powerful way to connect with his memory and process your feelings. It’s a private space to share what’s in your heart—what you miss, what you’re grateful for, and what you wish you could tell him today.

• Do Something He Loved. Honour his memory by engaging in an activity he enjoyed. You could go for a walk on his favourite trail, listen to his favourite band, watch a movie he loved, or cook his signature dish. Connecting with the things that brought him joy can make him feel closer.

• Create a Personal Ritual. A memorial can be a quiet, personal act. You might light a candle for him, raise a glass in his honour, or visit a place that was special to you both. Choose a small ritual that feels meaningful and allows you a moment to reflect and remember.

• Lean on Your People (Or Choose Solitude). There is no right way to spend the day. You may find comfort in being with family or friends who knew and loved him, sharing stories and supporting one another. Equally, you may need time and space for quiet reflection on your own. Honour what feels right for you.

 
General Guidance for Navigating the Day
 

• Plan Ahead, Gently. The anticipation of a difficult day can be challenging. Thinking gently about how you might want to spend the day can give you a sense of agency. This could mean planning a comforting activity, arranging to speak with a supportive friend, or simply giving yourself permission to have a quiet day with no expectations.

• Give Yourself Permission. You have permission to change traditions or to keep them. You have permission to feel sad or to find moments of happiness. You have permission to engage with others or to retreat. This is your day to navigate in the way that best supports your own heart and wellbeing.

• Navigate Family and Friends with Grace. Everyone experiences these moments differently, and family members may have varying needs or expectations. Try to communicate your own needs clearly and kindly, while also being open to finding a compromise that respects everyone’s feelings. It can be helpful to think about what is most important to you, and where you are willing to be flexible.
   

Whatever this day holds, we hope you find moments of peace, love, and gentle comfort.